Columnistas // Guide for the Relationship Girl: Survival Tips – When the Going Gets Tough

When we’re in relationships, not everything is all doom and gloom. We find ourselves in a steady, happy and balanced relationship, with no doubts or issues that ever reach the surface. However, what happens when the ‘rough patches’ begin? How is a relationship girl meant to deal with them? It’s difficult, as you don’t think it’s bad enough to leave, but it doesn’t exactly make you want to stay either.Nevertheless, all couples run into bumps along the road and after all, it is not about why it happens, but how you deal with it as a couple.This is why it is all about being a strong relationship girl, because when the going gets tough, the tough don’t get going. Rather, they learn how to survive and deal with their problems.

Take yourself away

This tip comes up repeatedly in my column and this is because it is a very significant one. By taking yourself away, I don’t mean you need to go on a vacation, you could go for a coffee with a friend and talk to them about the bad patch you’re experiencing. This tip is all about taking a step back from a situation that could put you in distress. If it seems like you and your guy are getting into an argument, take a time out for a while.

Fun Tip: Grab your favourite mug and spend some time perfecting your coffee making skills. Indulge in it whilst you are wrapped up in your snuggie.

Occupy your mind with the positives

I know this is very easy to say, but try not to dwell on any conflicts you have experienced present or past. Instead, try to think about all the numerous positives in your relationship. There is no point in spending your time feeling overwhelmed with anxiety.

Fun Tip: Dance to the most upbeat music that you can find. Get your hairbrush and sing-along to it like a popstar.

Don’t hold grudges for the next time round

Saving up grudges for the next time the two of you have an argument won’t do either of you any good. It is unproductive and you will drive each other crazy. Ensure that all of your arguments, however big or small, get resolved and that when tensions are on the rise in the future, you don’t unleash your bottled up frustrationson each other.

Fun Tip: Do something for your man and purchase some new underwear. Surprise him with it and it’s likely that all will be forgiven.

Embrace everyone around you

Throughout the positives and the negatives, make sure that he isn’t the focus of your entire world. After all, it is all about incorporating a healthy balance in your relationship, so that you are spending time with both your friends and family.

Fun Tip: Round the girls up for a movie night and embrace those much-needed girlie giggles. 

Knowing these tips in advance will certainly help a relationship girl to survive when the going gets tough. Like with everything, it is all about preparation but take each day as it comes and remember to stay true to you. Not all couples are the same; everyone acts and reacts in different ways. So remember, don’t allow your happiness to revolve around him, you must create your own peace. If you’re a happy relationship girl, then throughout thick and thin your relationship is bound to survive.